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Are we living in a progressive society that benefits us all?

September 14, 201811:58 am

We live in a society that is predominantly driven by our engagement to the internet primarily a result of the sweeping development of new technologies in the last two decades. When the internet first popped into the world scene around 1995, we were all blown away by the potential to bring about sweeping changes in the way people do business and conduct their daily lives. No doubt, a majority of those lofty thoughts have now come to pass but have there been any consequences?

We don’t worry about getting a telephone signal on the other line, we can see instantly if someone is ‘online’ on our phone.
We don’t pay hefty bills to speak to someone on the other side of the planet, we can pretty much do this free now days. Not only that, we can see their faces.
We pay for an electronic good today that is a fraction of the price twenty years ago.
We have access to hundreds of friends who can lift us up in an instant through social platforms.
We don’t have to rely on friends and families, our social reach goes beyond this circle and can extend to hundreds of people in a matter of days if not minutes.
We don’t have to be face to face with someone to make personal statements or criticisms.
We have social and instant gratification when we need it and don’t need the permission of anyone.

The above can paint a picture of a society that has ‘enabled’ people to move away from their tiny space to one that is a far bigger stage. People will almost always interact through ‘ether’ rather than via the physical presence like before. It means, it is no longer required for humans to have a physical one-to-one connection to get the same recognition, rewards, guidance that they always crave for. But if you truly turn the technology upside down on its head, the instruments for communication are essentially tools where humans ultimately connect. Without this important component, all of these technologies would fall apart.

It ultimately boils down to humans wanting the same things as their fellow compatriots from the beginning man set foot on this earth. We all need sustenance, recognition, love and to be close to other like minded people. The technology enablers of today makes this happen at record speeds. For example, you can have food delivered to your door under 20 mins. Packages arriving at your doorstep the next day after placing an order online the night before.Tens of people coming to ‘like’, persecute, ignore, love, share, the moment you post something online. We could be living in a society where you could or should ‘join the masses’ or be left behind and I talk about this later on.

Most have us have some kind of daily lives, such as working in an occupation, going to school etc. and these will keep us on our toes most of the day. Yet, a majority of us keep our phones close to us and at the slightest twinkle, will reach out to the phone like a life-line. Do people really want to escape from their daily grind of life and immerse themselves into this virtual world? Is the life in the virtual world better than the physical world that is abound? Have our expectations changed such that we only crave for instant gratification and rewards. Is society in the early stages of spiralling towards degeneracy or will it create a world that will be conducive to mankind’s existence.

We need to look at the new millennials of today to get an understanding of what society could be in the future. They are the ones who are going to map out the future and how human beings will live and interact with each other on this planet. There happens to be 5 billion phones globally which is about 75% of the world’s population. This is astonishing considering that only twenty years ago a majority of us were communicating with each other using antiquated landlines. In my opinion, this direction is taking us to a new level of human interaction and this interaction can be a double edged sword. The biggest advantage is that it allows all of us to communicate rapidly with each other and to be able to resolve issues quickly.

Theoretically, this kind of immediate access means that many people can leverage this and reach thousands of people to advertise their skills, products etc. People can now channel their untapped skills and energy to something they have always wanted to do but did not have the means to do so previously. This can also mean that many people will also face stiff competition with other people having the same interests and desires. I believe, there are two groups of people that can come from this type of society. The people of the ‘masses’ and the other much tinier group of people who have more stamina, resilience and determination to make their lives different from others.

The people of the ‘masses’ will predominantly be made up of the consumers of the capitalistic system that will continue to keep the mighty companies of today in business for a long time to come. They will invariably be driven by the ‘I’ movement where their only needs are primarily to themselves with strong traits, in self-control, self-centerment, self-directed, self-motivated. This means that the impact of these individuals to society has a profound effect on how it is perceived. There is no doubt that a consumer based society of today relies on the importance of another category of people who are innovators and thinkers of tomorrow that will direct the technologies to keep this massive engine oiled.

We are seeing large strides being made in virtual reality (VR) with augmented reality and headsets that are designed to immerse people in a virtual world of their own making. This will pave the way for individuals to be more self-directed and relying less on human and physical interaction. In time, individuals will be content living in a ‘matrix’ type world and a ‘virtual family’ would be more preferable and less stressful than their own family.

All this means, is that the very basis of man’s roots for co-existing, when they first walked on earth could be secondary to a new ‘world’ that is shaping up today. There would be no need for a partner, no need to live with other people, but become an individual in a world of their own and isolated from the real and physical world.

We live in a age of instant gratifications and the millenials are used to getting what they want. We have the monster companies of today who are completely engaged with the way we live and work. For example, Amazon.com fulfills our impatience and instant gratification in fulfilling orders by having packages we ordered the previous night arriving right at our doorstep the following morning. Our desires for material goods from anywhere in the world can manifest at our doorsteps without every setting a foot outside our home.

The picture that I have painted thus far, may look a bit bleak for some and many would dismiss it as nothing but wishy-washy at best. However, that is not to say, why we could and should not question the very society that we live in. After all, the future of our children will continue to live in this world and we should always ask ourselves, ‘are we setting good examples and most importantly are we setting a good stage for their futures’.

We can take a mature approach and provide the necessary direction to our children as long as we have an honest disposition towards the future well being of our children.

As an individual living in this society that is controlled by people who dictate the economic infrastructure that we have today, we do not have to feel helpless. I believe, the direction we’re going in is directly in our control and in the hands of people like you and me. It takes a certain attitude to shift away from a self-concentric viewpoint and think about the world we and our loved ones live in. I found the book ‘The Power of Now’ by Eckhart Tolle to be a very helpful book in evaluating your existence and take back control of your own life. The goal is that you have better purpose in life and do not always feel helpless. I am not preaching to the world and I do not have anything to sell but it is my view that one should impart their own knowledge and wisdom so that others can benefit.

Right now, you can use your own feelings and thoughts and have the ability and will power to go in the direction you choose. It is up to you, if you want to follow the ‘mass path’ way to life or if you really wanted to make a difference to your life. We practically live in a Sci-Fi world and visionary people like Arthur C Clarke, George Orwell had the wisdom to see the ramifications of the societies during their day. We can be controlled as a mass or do you want to be an individual and shine in the path towards where your true self belongs. For those that choose the long and arduous path have something that no other person can take away from them and that is their true intent of who they are.

The ‘mass path’ as I have defined here is not the meaning implied in the dictionary although they have similar connotations. My meaning stems from the fact that people who’s lives are guided by the construct of technologies we have today are departing from their true self. If they stood back and thought how it’s impacting their lives, then they would be fulfilling more of their creative potential and hence their true self.

Our society of instant gratification can also mean that we become more frivolous on many subjects and topics of great importance and interest. Take for example, our president Trump who indirectly has shown the very society we live in. He chooses not to discuss topics of any great lengths and in fact takes to twitter to put out his statements and opinions which comprise no more than a few sentences. This tends to provoke and challenge many of the ‘mass path’ population which is his intended audience anyways. The ones who truly want to dig below the subject matter are few and far between.

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Trump’s rise to victory

November 9, 20167:39 am

New 45th President of the USA

New 45th President of the USA

I had followed the run-up to the election since no person in US could ignore the deluge of insults and insinuations that were thrown by each party (Clinton & Trump) on a daily basis. My first opinion of Trump was mixed and quite surprised that such a person of this brazen personality and character could ever take center stage let alone make a president. I began to wonder a life of Trump as president and based on his talks how he was anti this and ant that, I became terrified of a third world war under his leadership. As much as two months ago, there was no way that ‘normal’ people would actually vote for this kind of a person into office, people just won’t let that happen,…so I thought.

As the election unfolded on Nov 8th, I began to have an uncomfortable feeling that all of media and every whimsical thought and prediction to the run up to the election was going to be squashed and vanquished tonight. I reflected back to the 2004 election where G W Bush stood for a second term despite all odds against him but was voted again for a second term as president. There was a very famous poster in UK following his victory where the headlines read ‘How can 50 million people be so dumb?’.

Moving forward to the 2008 election where Hillary Clinton was up against Obama, there was one lingering thought in my mind that wasn’t talked about in the media at that time. I immediately had a sense that Clinton was not so trustworthy whereas Obama seemed open and transparent and my choice would go with Obama.

Many people are now trying to reel themselves back to reality from the outcome of this election but the fact remains that nobody can predict the ‘mindsets’ of the people of America. I was even surprised to hear that 29% of Latinos voted for Trump despite his rhetoric for building a wall and deporting illegal immigrants. Maybe they have forgotten where they had come from and decided that this was their home to stay and protect. I actually thought that they could tip the balance for Hillary but I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that the new generation of Latino voters who are second descendants and have no affiliation towards their native countries. Many discussions are sure to take place (possibly years to come) of how an unlikely candidate such as Trump got into power.

It occurred to me afterwards that the scruples and principles that people adhere to as core values that drives individuals and the interests of people as a whole no longer apply. I think what happened is that a majority of the Americans who usually abide by a core set of principles and values based on decency, principles, honesty, integrity etc actually thought it was sufficient to oust Trump out of this race but boy were they wrong. Many people were asked the question who they would vote into office and some replied that both could not be trusted and if they had to pick one of the lesser evil it would be Trump.

It is clear that the stealth campaign engine of Trump had succeed in achieving their goal and the Clinton campaign possibly fell into complacency based on media polls and hype. In my opinion Obama and the first lady were the handful of folks who read the signals correctly and did their utmost best to avert the situation but it was not to be. When you are up against a businessman who is sharp, calculating and only built to win, you had better be on your toes. I learnt this having been in business for many years. Credit must go to Trump.. he played a masterful game that tilted the American voters onto his side and left the other party bemused and still picking up the pieces.

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Changing your attitude and thinking matters - examples

September 1, 20161:21 pm

We often find ourselves in the doldrums and feel there is no way out of it. Many of us remain that way and unable to find a way out, but the answer is really very simple. You may have come across the words ‘I think and therefore I am’ from the famous 17th century French philosopher René Descartes.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cogito_ergo_sum

Brain has amazing feats of energy that you dont always understand

Brain has amazing feats of energy that you dont always understand

These words are loaded with information, in case you didn’t know. Basically the premise of the words was to convey to the person the rationale thinking of one’s own existence but it has much more implications as I will explain.

You may also have come across these sayings…

“Careful of what you think, it might come true’

‘’We act without thinking or we keep thinking without acting’

and my favorite one by Dale Carnegie…

‘It isn’t what you have, or who you are or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about’


There are big lessons to be learnt from these ‘thinking’ mindset (apologizes for the pun) and that it can profoundly change the way we live. All the philosophers and successful people point to the same thing and that is everyone can change, it is just a matter of changing one’s thinking. This conveniently brings me to the important points of my blog topic which is to show you real examples of how this works. We know that theory is great but it stands no chance of approvals if it does not work in practice, so here goes…

‘You just bought a new or used car’

Have you noticed how you now see the same make of car everywhere you go. You know this to be true because prior to buying this car you were not paying attention but suddenly your mind is so tuned to this make and model of car without you even knowing it or wanting it. Remember if you have been planning to buy this car for a long time, you will also see the same pattern, your senses to this car is heightened and you can fairly easily pick out this car without even trying. This also happens when you buy a car on a whim and you suddenly see these cars everywhere you go, even though if you are not looking out for it.

Explanation:

You have placed these thoughts and images in your head and so the real world observations becomes heightened with this specific car and you cannot help but see more of these cars everywhere you go. To increase your subconscious mind on a particular topic or interest, you simply have to conjure it up in your mind and play it back regularly as you do when you have just purchased a new car. The brain takes over and materializes the same thing playing in your mind, call it mumbo jumbo but you know it actually happens in practice and not just for cars.


‘I always find a solution to a problem when I have a good night sleep’

If you have been stuck with something, you often find that giving yourself giving a break that helps you to come back and solve whatever you were undertaking.

Explanation:

The mind needs ‘freedom of movement and expression’, which means that you can’t force the mind to come up with the problem whenever you feel like. Just like nature that always takes the path of least resistance and the most natural path, so does the mind. You need to ‘give in’ to your mind to come up with the answers and solutions. This is why yoga and meditation have been around for thousands of years, only because it works.

‘I was just about to call you and you called me’

How can someone possibly explain events like this! You may argue, sheer coincidence and a stroke of luck…or is it. Let’s do some simple maths here of the probability of such an event happening.

Let’s say that you had a friend who lives far off and you probably talk once a month and mostly at random times. For someone to make a call at a random point in time AND at the moment you are thinking of the same, say after one month has the statistical probabilities shown below…

Number of seconds in a month = 2,628,000

Probability of FRIEND calling you = 1 in almost 3 million

Probability of YOU calling friend = 1 in almost 3 million

Probability of YOU and FRIEND calling at the same time

= 2,628,000 x 2,628,000

~ 7 billion

The chances of this happening is 7 billion to one, that is more than that lottery!

So the chances that both at that moment in time are thinking the same way is 1 in 7 billion and you thought the lottery was difficult! The explanation of such a thing is because the mind operates in a manner we have little knowledge about. Who is to say all the undiscovered ‘waves’ that have not been found in space are a result of this. The truth is when the mind is settled and uninterrupted you could be doing a communication dance and links with other people and you become momentarily surprised. The mind is truly amazing, do not underestimate it’s value.

‘I was shocked at how everything came together’

You often hear stories of how an entire day or week events came together and you just cannot give any possible logical explanations to it. I will provide a fitting example of a friend of mine who shared a story regarding this. He told me that there were a number of excruciating events on that day where he needed to juggle some things around and then catch a flight. Without going into the details of the story, he was able to fit everything into that day and astonishingly he was able to make it to the flight when he was absolutely certain that he would be nowhere near it. As the day unfolded, he was aghast at how the events unfolded and there were glimmers of hope of everything coming together. What my friend did, was gave way to ‘nature’ since he probably thought the whole day’s feat was an impossible task and he just let it go. As he saw the day unfolding and things getting done he became increasingly positive and confident and he was able to achieve the impossible task of catching the flight. He looks back on the day and he simply cannot understand how the turn of events came about for all of it to happen!

What can we learn from his experience? A lot in fact.. what our minds are telling us is that if you have a purpose and desire and have at least a glimmer of hope of succeeding, you will be truly amazed and at how the mind and body can materialize those impossible tasks.


Stay tuned for more enlightening posts!

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Navigating around New York city for your date

August 31, 20165:43 pm

If you have a date in New York, NY City or surrounding areas, then you will know that it is always a good idea to give yourself plenty of time for the commute to your dating location. If you are a native New Yorker, you probably will find some of this information redundant, however, you may find some uses for the new maps prepared for commuting easily on the subway of NY.

Travel in New York City

Travel in New York City

Driving:
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is driving to your dating location, be it late at night or even weekends on Sundays, be prepared to sit in idle traffic for a long time! If you are coming out of state, it is always best to park your car in the suburbs close to where you are going and then just hop on the train or bus for the rest of the journey. Avoid driving at all possible costs unless you know that your dating partner resides on the outskirts of the city and I mean, really in the outskirts.

New York has always been busy, even if you go back 50 or 100 years and of course with time it just got even busier. It is only a question of time when NY implements the same requirements as London for drivers entering and leaving the city.

Public Transport:
Most of us have gotten used to the subway and try to avoid buses altogether but you are at a miss if you do so. Restricting your commute to the subway will only lengthen your journey since you will have to do the remainder of your trip by foot. Many areas are several blocks or maybe 1-2 miles from the nearest subway. It is always best to know your bus routes. Ferdouse.com has conveniently put together maps for these exact benefits. Make sure you have it on the home page of your mobile phone. Here are the links…

http://www.ferdouse.com/2016/03/new-york-subway-map-image-form-better-than-pdf/

Uber:
Uber is a huge phenomena in NY with about 30,000 drivers signed up to the massive automated online system. Many of these drivers depend on their livelihood on this service. The cost is not usually much but can be expensive depending on what location you want to go to. Uber dynamically updates it’s price depending on the demand in particular areas and they provide this information as a color-coded map for the drivers. Some parts of Manhattan will light up in red during peak-times and you may end up paying twice the rate. However, generally the service is cheaper than the yellow or green cabs and the cars/drivers of Uber also need to be regulated by the NY Transport agency.

Bicycling:
Not the best way to meet up with your date, although you can put a label on the rear of your seat saying ‘my other big bike is a Land Rover’ etc. If you plan to meet up for just coffee or a bite to eat than this may allow you to weave through traffic and reach your destination faster than cabs. NY has done a good job of making roads compatible with bikes and even City Bank now offers bicycles that you can rent dotted around the city.

However, you get to your destination, make sure you are fresh, clean and with some energy to enjoy with your date!

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Cultural differences can be major obstacles to surmount before finding suitable matches

August 29, 20162:17 pm

We know to a certain extent that culture can play a vital part in the way we have been brought up and our personalities can reflect this. In the early stages of a relationship we may overlook those differences but as soon as the couple gets to really know each other, those differences can become challenging. I can’t help but give you a blatant expression of cultural differences depicted in the movie ‘My Big Fat Greek Wedding’ released in 2002. This pokes much fun at the differences in culture including the parents mindset but it does sum up quite well how cultural differences can impact relationships.

cultural differences depicted in movie

cultural differences depicted in movie

Many a people have given advice on this subject and it’s usually in these lines, ‘marry into the same culture’. There is much truth to this statement because being brought up in a particular culture embeds into us specific values, behavior, what is tolerant etc and a host of other things. This shapes the way we think, behave, respond and of course the future mindset when it comes to partnering and getting married. Many couples of differing cultures will tell you that it was only over time that they overcame their differences and were able to adjust to each other. For the starry-eyed couples, take note since cultural values should not be looked at lightly.

In the example of the movie mentioned earlier, it was quite funny to watch how the woman was in no mood to be intimate with her American partner after what seemed like forever for the poor young man. Although it would be too stereotypical to say that the West have a leander understanding of what is considered intimate, nevertheless the cultural differences do play a significant part in relationship building. You may also say that religious viewpoints play a vital part in the courting and dating game. The oddity of religion is that it is often fashioned by the culture itself and intermingled with the cultural values of the environment live in. This may bring about a different opinion of thinking and understanding but not necessarily bespoke of religion.

Generally, if you are meeting someone from different cultural backgrounds, it is always a good idea to give yourself time and understand the differences. Apart from the cultural differences you also have to weigh the unique personality of the person you are dating. One of the reasons why some Eastern marriages work over a long period of time is that they have been wired to think in some way with regards to marriage and children. The initial ‘unknown’ glitzy and romantic entanglement makes way for a much more pragmatic, rigorous, down-to-earth, plain common sense approach to marriage. Maybe it is a good thing and maybe it is a bad thing. The point being that a couple needs to go in it for the long haul and not just for the romance.

It is perhaps for this reason why we are now choosing to marry late and some not to marry at all. The unfortunate fact of this matter is that for those who remain single, they will not be able to experience the joy and often frustrations that come about from marriage and children. Maybe it could be different to what you have seen as ‘second-hand’ or maybe you think you can do a much better job than your parents. However, it is almost impossible to know what it is like unless you have actually experienced it itself. Take for example, the famous question, ‘is it better to have loved and lost and not to have loved at all’ or ‘What is it like to hold your first born child in your arms for the very first time’.

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