Archive for the ‘Online Dating Briefs by Dr. Dato’ Category
UK police to warn women of online dating offenders - Dr Dato’s Brief
Monday, July 18th, 2011
I recently read an interesting post in a UK newsletter about the government’s efforts to provide a service to women to warn them of potential abusive men that they may come across in dating websites. This work was spurred by ‘Calre’s Law’ which was advocated by government officials in the recent murder of a woman who found a man through an online dating site.
The idea behind this work is that the UK government has an extensive database of offenders and many women can find comfort in conducting a search though the database for potential offenders.
Although, this is a noble move by the government, it does not solve the entire problem.
In particular, new offenders will not be found in the database because no incident has been logged. The online dating industry is a growing power house that will attract many individuals from all parts of society including reclusive and violent people. Since many of these offenders are almost always loners and live in a world all by themselves, the virtual world offers a perfect avenue to converse with women and overcome their social deficiencies.
The help from the UK government cannot preclude the fact that, women will always have to remain vigil whomever they have to date and they need to take appropriate measures and always follow these rules:
- Tell a friend you are going to meet someone you met online
- Always meet in a public place
- Never go inside of a car with someone you just met
Tags: online dating safety, UK government dating warning, women and safety
Breaking the myths of female psychology - Dr Dato’s Brief
Thursday, July 7th, 2011
I have a passion for understanding human psychology and what makes us tick and behave the way we do. In my ongoing quest for answers, I recently came across this book called Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man by Joseph W. South, David Clare and Franco.
Clearly there are untold stories of the many stumbling blocks in communication by both men and women in relationships with the unfortunate consequences of separation and divorce. The book actually attempts to answer the female psyche which many men have trouble trying to figure out.
Whereas men have rationale and logic tied to their actions the females of the species operate in a different way. Many of these women are moved by their emotions alone. For example, if you attempted to draw a set of events as follows…
V –> W –> X –> Y —> Z
For women these set of events are completely unrelated when they are emotionally driven. The trouble men have is that they attempt correlate the previous event with the next since it maybe dependent on each other which is the correct logical way of thinking. This could be one of the reasons why men struggle to understand why women sometimes do not make any sense.
By understanding womens emotions more could lead to better relationships
Tags: better relationships, female psychology for men, understanding female emotions
Has intimacy changed with the advent of online dating? Dr Dato’s Brief
Tuesday, June 28th, 2011
I read a few recent articles that talks about intimacy and how this has changed people’s behavior through online dating. Is online dating leading to a quicker form of intimacy with amongst the users and has it opened the door to the widespread problems of sexually transmitted disease (STD)?
Although no real studies have been conducted to conclusively determine this trend, the online dating scene has definitely changed our perception of dating and no doubt the way we date, this cannot be disputed.
It is possible that the speed at which couples can meet online as opposed to the traditional methods of dating such as the bars, events, nightclubs may offer a more discrete form of dating where ‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy maybe the norm. Perhaps the increase in use of digital media and the speed at which one lives their lives allows us to believe that with more action comes the results. What I mean by this, is that people maybe of the thinking that the more partners they are able to screen and go through, the likelihood they will land themselves the right partner.
Just some thoughts.
Is online dating changing our behavior of intimacy and sexuality?
Tags: intimacy online dating, online dating and behavior, std a worry in online dating
Some helpful tips on spotting online dating sites scammers - Dr Dato’s Brief
Friday, June 24th, 2011
Recently there have been numerous accounts by users who have been scammed by other users into sending them money. This activity has been going on for a very long time and as long as the dating sites have been around.
Users of online dating sites must understand that online dating sites such as free dating sites cannot totally eradicate the number of scammers that join their site. There are good reasons for this and this is due to the hundreds, if not thousands of members that join these sites every day. Even if every member is screened manually, scammers can easily disguise their identity, photograph, their origin etc. and still manage to sign up to the site.
Because of the nature of their business, these scammers do some repeated tasks to ensure that they can rapidly find their victim and these are the areas that users need to be aware of.
You will find a good listing of checks that the federal government has posted on this link…
http://www.ftc.gov/opa/2010/11/onlinedating.shtm
Basically there are common traits that most people can spot scammers by;
- They usually give you their undivided love and attention right from the beginning
- They are often from abroad but they may claim they are from the US
- They always want to communicate outside of the messaging system of the online dating site
online dating scammers come in many shape and form
Tags: dating scammers tricks, scammers often ask for money, spotting online dating scammers
Evidence to support online dating activity to increase after an earthquake? - Dr Dato’s Brief
Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011
I read with much enthusiasm about an article that I found where in Christchurch, New Zealand a recent earthquake motivated many singles to become more active in the online dating activity scene.
I read through the article and unfortunately, there were no explanations offered by the writer as to why this increase in activity may have resulted except the observations of increased online activity.
I will try to offer my explanations on this topic.
Often in online dating sites, there is a flurry of activity around seasonal times such as Christmas, Valentines Day and other national holidays. This can be attributed to the extra time that people have in their hands during those holidays as well as, in my opinion, a sense of reflection and no doubt a sense of loneliness if you are single.
It is during those holiday periods that we come to reflect on all things that we have some priorities that we have pushed out in time as we are too busy with our daily lives. For families, it’s about spending more time with their children, for youngsters to go and do the exciting things like travel or extreme sports etc.
During an earthquake, the effect of ‘doing the stuff that have been postponed’ becomes greater due to the added perception that there is little time left in this world and we may have limited time. This could be the prime reason for single folks to rush to the internet to find their match before the time runs out. It shows the vulnerability of all human beings and the ‘fear’ that is instilled when a major event happens in our lives. Realistically, we all know that anything can happen any time and an earthquake should not be the reason to get us moving again.
Link:
http://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/wellbeing/5176633/Surge-in-speed-and-online-dating-after-quakes
should we wait for an earthquake to get us back on track?
Tags: dating after an earthquake, earthquake increases online dating activity, motivation for online dating
Some tips on choosing fantastic free dating sites - Dr Dato’s Brief
Monday, June 20th, 2011
Today more and more dating sites are coming onto the scene and the typical person is now left with a bewildering number of choices. These dating sites and often completely free dating sites seem to cover every niche and angle you can think of.
There are free dating sites that cater to the music lovers, cat lovers and even people who are into gadgets.
What to choose and where to start?
Most people would rush to any dating site that they find through surfing or doing searches and when something grabs their attention, they sign up without any questions. This is often a mistake because many free dating sites put a glamorous front-end in order to lure you into signing up but once you have registered you find that there are many people lacking on the site. We have covered reviews of many free dating sites in our blog, just to to the category on the right to Free Dating Site Reviews where we have done the hard work for you and have gone through the whole process and give you unbiased opinion of the site.
One important factor that differentiates good free dating sites over others is the member base. You will find in our reviews that we have a special section on member base which we determine through several parameters including traffic and visits to the site. Above all, pick a dating site that has a good member base, because this will be more important than just simply the snazzy looks.
looks can be deceiving with some free dating sites
Tags: Dating sites reviews, free dating sites tips, reviews of free dating sites, what to look for on dating sites
What is white label dating? Dr Dato’s Brief
Sunday, June 19th, 2011
You may have come across the term ‘white label dating’ and never really understood it’s meaning or significance. When you visit many of the online dating sites around today, you may be using one of these ‘white label dating’ sites without knowing.
The concept originally came to fruition about 6 years ago when a humble company in UK found a niche in all the dating sites that were currently out there. Following extensive studies they discovered that most of these start-ups not only lacked start-up funds but also lacked the knowledge in marketing and the service follow up with it’s customers such as payment, support etc.
They offered a solution that allowed these sites to maintain their identity while they worked on the backend providing the necessary backend support where it was needed for a percentage of the earnings. Of course you get to maintain your identity but they also do the marketing for you since its in their interest to also market the site for you so they can get more earnings.
Think of this as a big affiliate program in much the same way as Travelocity, Expedia or Orbitz hosts all the mini-hotels through their portal site to push bookings but for dating sites it would be subscriptions.
white label dating has had much success in recent times with their unique models
Tags: dating affiliate programs, helping dating site owners, white label dating
Can the formal techniques of interviews help with online dating? Dr Dato’s Brief
Thursday, June 16th, 2011
I recently came across an interesting article by a woman who provides some insightful information with regarding to asking the right questions when it comes to men. You can find this article here.
To me, the set of questions almost came across a bit like interviewing techniques when you are standing in front of an interviewer answering some deep questions related to the job. It struck me, why can’t people be as cold and brash when selecting partners, after all, the interview process for a job can be quite stringent and has proved well with companies otherwise they would hire on the spot.
What can we learn from this..
Basically the key according to the writer Julie Knight is asking the right set of questions. By analyzing their responses she decides whether to remove the profile and continue moving on. Some of these questions are as follows;
- How long ago did you end your last relationship?
- What did you like about my profile?
- What do you see yourself doing in five years?
- Tell me a story that shows me what kind of parent you are
I think one has to be careful when analyzing the questions, do not just base your decision on just the outcome of one question, look at the whole profile, because people are humans and they have flaws and in a long-term relationship one has to work hard to work and adapt not only to one’s strengths but their weaknesses too.
Applying interview techniques to online dating can help but tread carefully
Tags: asking right questions in dating, interview techniques and dating, selecting the right partner
The trouble with online dating sites - Dr Dato’s Brief
Wednesday, June 15th, 2011
More and more people are using the online dating sites as a way to meet other people. Although the statistics look very rosy for dating site owners, there are many users who simply do not utilize the full potential of the dating sites and are missing opportunities.
One of the the most prevalent issue is that some users once they have signed up to the dating sites will stop coming back and will have wasted all that time signing up and putting up information on their profile.
I have a theory about this and this is based on many individuals who feel that ’someone’ will come in their way either through online dating, at work or any other chance meeting or event. Although, it’s nice to romanticize such notions and feelings, in reality, the online dating statistics show that the best opportunities open up to people who are pro-active.
In the space of online dating, the greatest success by members are those who actively search for their potential partners on the dating sites they have joined. This means that they put aside some times on a regular basis and search through dating profiles to find suitable matches and start communicating with them.
It is also perhaps why eharmony is so successful as they do all the matches for you and send them right to your home page but even then it will take sparks of effort on the end user. Next time you are on a dating site, don’t feel that a one-time search that did not return anything you liked was going to put you off. If you are still not fully confident, ask yourself, why is a gemstone so delightful to the eye when you see it, because it is unique and rare just like your potential match.
All couples have unique qualities that make them compatible with each other
Tags: how to make the best of dating sites, online dating sites, proactive is the key to dating sites, success with online dating sites
How to be aware of online dating scammers - Dr Dato’s Brief
Monday, June 13th, 2011
Whichever dating sites that you sign up with, you will likely come across potential dating scammers, but they all try to operate under the radar. Often women are the most targeted by these dating scammers but if you know a few things beforehand you can avoid the frustration of being scammed by such users.
Usually there are tell-tale signs to spot scammers and they start from the actual dating profile that they put up on line.
Sometimes, these dating profiles will have a nice photo and often little information about themselves but that is not to say that they could be legitimate profiles by genuine users who haven’t had the time to update their profile.
Other signs include a message that doesn’t appear to be ‘personalized’. This means that the user has pretty much copied and pasted the same message to the members they want to target. Remember, they need to get through as many as possible in order for them to have success, because often most members will be astute to their game and they just need that one vulnerable single person who is craving for that relationship.
The subject of online dating scam has hit the headlines of big news and due to its importance, I will cover more on this topic in the future.
online dating scammers have a hidden agenda
Tags: avoiding being scammed, online dating scammers, scammers to watch out
