We all like to be found (by our would-be partner) but the truth of the matter is that we need to follow our instincts and make ourselves active when looking for our lifelong partner. There are many places that you can go to find your ideal partner, but basically it boils down to creating opportunities for yourself to meet other people in social gatherings, clubs, meetings etc. Here are a few guidelines..

Open up opportunities
It’s always comfortable to go to social events that you like. You don’t have to go to night clubs if that’s not your scene, there are many other places where people get together, for example, dance studios, hobby events, weddings, house parties etc. Find out what your interests are and then decide to go to them on a regular basis. By going regularly you are presenting yourself to people that they know you and can trust you. You shouldn’t restrict your conversations or meetings just to the opposite sex, be open and meet people of all backgrounds. You may be surprised by the opportunities that open up to you when you talk to like-minded people. For example they may invite you to their house for a barbecue and you meet the ‘love of your dreams’ there. Just keep your mind open to any opportunities that come your way.

Be yourself
When you meet other people, simply be yourself and you will feel comfortable talking to other people. This presents a likeable and pleasing personality (with nothing to hide) and which people are drawn to and will most certainly help you build a great social network.

Breaking the ice
Ok, so you have been to the social events and you have singled out some attractive partners that you would like to date. What do you do? Again, the best approach for this is to ‘make small talk’ so the act of asking someone for a date doesn’t seem awkward. You can always say during your conversation ‘I enjoyed our talk very much, would you like to have coffee with me sometimes’. This appears much more friendly and has a higher chance of getting a favorable response.

Increase your opportunities
Expand your opportunities by having your profiles set-up on other websites and always include a photo with your profiles. There are many free dating sites available today and you don’t have to pay a penny, just a few minutes of your time. Don’t be afraid to try out new innovative ways to expand your reach and help you find your ideal mate!

Other resources

• Appearance and dress sense really counts in dating
• How to be liked through examples – 12 key pointers
• The language of love - Body language and its potent power
• What is flirting and why is it important?

Tags: advise on dating, finding perfect partner, finding soul mate, resources on self-help

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