Posts Tagged ‘gender differences’
Friday, April 27th, 2012
We have reported in earlier posts about the big deal that many dating sites make regarding the algorithms that they employ to find your best matches. Although, we at Jumpdates feel that these can be useful aids to some online daters to find compatible matches, we do not think that they are the ‘holy grail’ to your compatible match.
We have covered many posts on the innate nature of human beings when it comes to relationships, marriage, gender differences and the many unique qualities that make all of us different. In addition to the complexity of each individual, add the unique relationship of the two individuals on top of this and we end up with an exceptionally intricate ‘union’ that cannot be determined through quantitative analysis alone.
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We also know that human beings also have an innate ability to change within, so how does that ‘impact’ the relationship. Most likely, it will throw a curveball in the entire relationship in the eyes of your partner and the relationship will need adapting to. There are just too many factors for online dating sites to claim they have a perfect system with regards to compatibility, it’s just not possible.
What dating sites can work towards instead, is to promote and ‘open’ the eyes of members to greater possibilities. Provide them with the necessary tools for them to locate the partner they are looking for and let them decide what will work for them. Dating sites by all means will always provide an excellent platform to engage many singletons together to find their meaningful relationship and this will continue to grow for years to come. However, we should all be realistic to how far we can really pair up couples since this communion can only be really understood by the couples themselves.
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Thursday, April 26th, 2012
Have you ever thought about the frequency of dates you are having with your dating partner? This could have much bearing on your relationship and give you deep insights into your partner’s thoughts and values. Prior to the dates you were most likely a singleton with tons of time in your hands and now all of a sudden you are pulled into a whirlwind of romantic dates.
Most of us will not consider the sudden transition that often takes place especially if the partner you are dating is to your liking and looks like long-term potential. You may argue that this could be in some ways good or bad but the fact is that we have a strict ‘happiness factor’ in our lives that moves us in certain directions. The problem is that along with the high ‘happiness factor’ we could also land with a thud when something in the future goes out of tune or whack and when we are least prepared.
Again, the question is can we always rely on our basic instincts and judgements to carry us forwards or should we be aware of the rapid changes that is happening all around us. It is a good question and one that needs careful thought since the ‘happiness factor’ is at play here. The irony of this issue is that the ‘happiness factor’ can often be in conflict with your sensory perceptions of instinct that is used for survival factors. It is probably the main culprit in our conflicting opinions and views when it comes to gender differences (please read our previous post on this hot topic).
Without being too serious and making your day a dull one, lets end the post on a happy note. The ‘happiness factor’ is a prime driving force in all of us, but just remember that in the same way when you step onto the road and suddenly a car blasts past you, your instinct takes over and saves your life. Your instincts will be a better judge of steering you through the maze of dangers and pitfalls and to keep and maintain your ‘happiness factor’ at an elevated high.
Sunday, April 22nd, 2012
I once dated a woman who found it odd that younger men were unwilling to date her and consider her as a long term dating partner or marriage. This came as a surprise to me since I always understood this rule to be of general acceptance ie. older men are more likely to date younger women than vice versa. However, it begs the question as to why this is the case and are there changing trends?
There are multitude of reasons why one gender in general tend to swing the power in their favor when it comes to dating and the marriage game. This perhaps may have to do with the evolution of men and women over time where they needed to co-exist together for survival and procreation. Men simply through their physique have extraordinary powers of strengths and agility and this will not change with time. One has to observe the Olympics to see the differential in times for speed, agility and strengths in all sports activities when comparing the two genders. This gift made men the aggressors of their own race and they were primarily hunters and protectors of their society. It seemed befitting that in the early years of man’s evolution the women would play a vital and integral part to the society by cooking, bearing children and maintaining a home.
This was the ‘organic’ growth of mankind where very few questions were raised towards the gender differences and equality did not set in until a more ‘civilized’ race was born. Although the strengths of women were well understood in society but with the advent of the industrial era skilled workers in the form of men and women changed and even created controversy over the traditional roles of women. Rightly so, women wanted equal rights in certain areas such as pay for the same job functions as men. Another apparent change that was happening due to the working women were their roles at home. Many women at that time courageously worked outside for a living as well as diligently attending to the needs of the home. This may have sparked the thinking behind many of the women’s movements in the last century.
Although one can see the changes in the gender roles both at home and at work, this was not the catalyst for the movements. It was a movement against the male dominated society where they exercised old rules based on tradition and not adapting fast enough to keep up with the changing times. This may be partly due to the ignorance of many or the desire to change or a fear of those changes. However, one cannot look at the macroscopic scale of the changes since there were perfectly contented couples and families that lived a harmonious life together. This clearly shows that the movements are always a result of a few who feel that many are ‘suppressed’ and need waking up.
Here lies another important question, “if a man and a woman are happy and living their lives in a contented manner, does anyone have a right to come into their lives and say it could be any different or better”. Who is to say that a native South American villager living deep in the hearts of the Amazon jungle will be enthralled with receiving an iPod. The point is, the constant outside influence by marketeers, sales people, bombastic tv commercials and the internet are all influencing us in many ways than one. It is up to the individual on how to assimilate this information and use it effectively and most importantly correctly and apply it to their own lives. Intelligent people will take all the information around them with a pinch of salt but keep their focus on the important things in life such as the family, future health and prospects etc.
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