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In my opinion there is no such thing as quick fixes.

Just like specialists take years of practice to become good at something, one cannot expect overnight success in developing an improved personality that has evolved over many years.

It takes patience and practice to see the many benefits materialize in your journey toward self-improvement.

being honest with oneself is the first step toward self-improvement

One of the most important areas to address before we can even move an inch in this direction requires us to be totally sincere and honest with each other.

We must first acknowledge not only the good points we have in all of us but also our shortcomings.

This is crucial for us to have any chance of real improvement.

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There is a famous Chinese proverb that says “..only when the student has found himself and is ready, will the master appear”.

One can only improve themselves if they are true to themselves and truly associate any events around them without any prejudice or bias.

a master can only teach if the student is ready

This is essentially the key to the whole self-development and improvement process.

There are many examples all around us where this essential point, if understood and acknowledged has culminated in the improvement of someone or something.

For example take the recent events of our time where our car companies faced huge hurdles when the economy tanked and GM was bailed out by the government.

In the midst of these bailouts one company defied everyone by not accepting the bail out money thanks to its CEO Alan Mulally who had the foresight and vision to see how Ford can grow to be a powerhouse.

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Unlike other companies at that time who were looking for ‘quick fixes’ the Ford Motor Company worked internally to resolve its own set of problems and become a rising star.

Few years ago when Ford was struggling, Alan Mulally met with all of his top executives and everyone was reluctant to admit their problems and issues within their own divisions.

business success depends on a real desire to improve oneself

Alan Mulally could see through this and eventually got every executive to be openly honest with each other and admit the issues that were not being addressed.

It was an action which led Ford to improving quality, reliability of their automobiles and an improved customer satisfaction and loyalty to its brand.

This put Ford firmly back into the global marketplace.

Because Fords first acknowledged and accepted its weaknesses, it was in a position to move towards self-improvement which it did. History is replete of such stories.

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It is for this reason alone where many couples will continue to struggle, have endless fights and never reach a compromise for a longer term solution.

Typically in situations like this, the relationship will suffer and ultimately deteriorate to the point of no return.

admitting fault and being honest

Most people are afraid to admit their own faults and on top of this feel compelled and comfortable in giving criticism to others.

One of the reasons for this stems from our own fears of showing weaknesses and this could imply a lack of self-confidence and the fear of being ridiculed.

If you notice and observe people, you may have come across people who are overly aggressive and are almost like ‘bullies’.

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One can easily develop resentment towards those groups of people but however, if you were to dig further, you will see that these individuals have deep seated problems of their own.

They fear being criticized themselves and instead choose to show a brash and bullish personality trait, that hide their true feelings.

bullies hide behind a weakness

Here is our first ‘clue’ on how resentment can come about in individuals.

A healthy and balanced life with the individual mentioned above will be an uphill battle because the person has not internalized the problem to the point where he/she can address it.

Often the arguments that start with this individual and loved one will end up with the other individual giving in to the arguments.

No real resolution will occur until this particular individual is able to cross the first hurdle of accepting the problem as it really is.

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