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Wednesday, November 9th, 2016
I had followed the run-up to the election since no person in US could ignore the deluge of insults and insinuations that were thrown by each party (Clinton & Trump) on a daily basis. My first opinion of Trump was mixed and quite surprised that such a person of this brazen personality and character could ever take center stage let alone make a president. I began to wonder a life of Trump as president and based on his talks how he was anti this and ant that, I became terrified of a third world war under his leadership. As much as two months ago, there was no way that ‘normal’ people would actually vote for this kind of a person into office, people just won’t let that happen,…so I thought.
As the election unfolded on Nov 8th, I began to have an uncomfortable feeling that all of media and every whimsical thought and prediction to the run up to the election was going to be squashed and vanquished tonight. I reflected back to the 2004 election where G W Bush stood for a second term despite all odds against him but was voted again for a second term as president. There was a very famous poster in UK following his victory where the headlines read ‘How can 50 million people be so dumb?’.
Moving forward to the 2008 election where Hillary Clinton was up against Obama, there was one lingering thought in my mind that wasn’t talked about in the media at that time. I immediately had a sense that Clinton was not so trustworthy whereas Obama seemed open and transparent and my choice would go with Obama.
Many people are now trying to reel themselves back to reality from the outcome of this election but the fact remains that nobody can predict the ‘mindsets’ of the people of America. I was even surprised to hear that 29% of Latinos voted for Trump despite his rhetoric for building a wall and deporting illegal immigrants. Maybe they have forgotten where they had come from and decided that this was their home to stay and protect. I actually thought that they could tip the balance for Hillary but I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that the new generation of Latino voters who are second descendants and have no affiliation towards their native countries. Many discussions are sure to take place (possibly years to come) of how an unlikely candidate such as Trump got into power.
It occurred to me afterwards that the scruples and principles that people adhere to as core values that drives individuals and the interests of people as a whole no longer apply. I think what happened is that a majority of the Americans who usually abide by a core set of principles and values based on decency, principles, honesty, integrity etc actually thought it was sufficient to oust Trump out of this race but boy were they wrong. Many people were asked the question who they would vote into office and some replied that both could not be trusted and if they had to pick one of the lesser evil it would be Trump.
It is clear that the stealth campaign engine of Trump had succeed in achieving their goal and the Clinton campaign possibly fell into complacency based on media polls and hype. In my opinion Obama and the first lady were the handful of folks who read the signals correctly and did their utmost best to avert the situation but it was not to be. When you are up against a businessman who is sharp, calculating and only built to win, you had better be on your toes. I learnt this having been in business for many years. Credit must go to Trump.. he played a masterful game that tilted the American voters onto his side and left the other party bemused and still picking up the pieces.
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Thursday, September 1st, 2016
We often find ourselves in the doldrums and feel there is no way out of it. Many of us remain that way and unable to find a way out, but the answer is really very simple. You may have come across the words ‘I think and therefore I am’ from the famous 17th century French philosopher René Descartes.
These words are loaded with information, in case you didn’t know. Basically the premise of the words was to convey to the person the rationale thinking of one’s own existence but it has much more implications as I will explain.
You may also have come across these sayings…
“Careful of what you think, it might come true’
‘’We act without thinking or we keep thinking without acting’
and my favorite one by Dale Carnegie…
‘It isn’t what you have, or who you are or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about’
There are big lessons to be learnt from these ‘thinking’ mindset (apologizes for the pun) and that it can profoundly change the way we live. All the philosophers and successful people point to the same thing and that is everyone can change, it is just a matter of changing one’s thinking. This conveniently brings me to the important points of my blog topic which is to show you real examples of how this works. We know that theory is great but it stands no chance of approvals if it does not work in practice, so here goes…
‘You just bought a new or used car’
Have you noticed how you now see the same make of car everywhere you go. You know this to be true because prior to buying this car you were not paying attention but suddenly your mind is so tuned to this make and model of car without you even knowing it or wanting it. Remember if you have been planning to buy this car for a long time, you will also see the same pattern, your senses to this car is heightened and you can fairly easily pick out this car without even trying. This also happens when you buy a car on a whim and you suddenly see these cars everywhere you go, even though if you are not looking out for it.
You have placed these thoughts and images in your head and so the real world observations becomes heightened with this specific car and you cannot help but see more of these cars everywhere you go. To increase your subconscious mind on a particular topic or interest, you simply have to conjure it up in your mind and play it back regularly as you do when you have just purchased a new car. The brain takes over and materializes the same thing playing in your mind, call it mumbo jumbo but you know it actually happens in practice and not just for cars.
‘I always find a solution to a problem when I have a good night sleep’
If you have been stuck with something, you often find that giving yourself giving a break that helps you to come back and solve whatever you were undertaking.
The mind needs ‘freedom of movement and expression’, which means that you can’t force the mind to come up with the problem whenever you feel like. Just like nature that always takes the path of least resistance and the most natural path, so does the mind. You need to ‘give in’ to your mind to come up with the answers and solutions. This is why yoga and meditation have been around for thousands of years, only because it works.
‘I was just about to call you and you called me’
How can someone possibly explain events like this! You may argue, sheer coincidence and a stroke of luck…or is it. Let’s do some simple maths here of the probability of such an event happening.
Let’s say that you had a friend who lives far off and you probably talk once a month and mostly at random times. For someone to make a call at a random point in time AND at the moment you are thinking of the same, say after one month has the statistical probabilities shown below…
Number of seconds in a month = 2,628,000
Probability of FRIEND calling you = 1 in almost 3 million
Probability of YOU calling friend = 1 in almost 3 million
Probability of YOU and FRIEND calling at the same time
= 2,628,000 x 2,628,000
~ 7 billion
The chances of this happening is 7 billion to one, that is more than that lottery!
So the chances that both at that moment in time are thinking the same way is 1 in 7 billion and you thought the lottery was difficult! The explanation of such a thing is because the mind operates in a manner we have little knowledge about. Who is to say all the undiscovered ‘waves’ that have not been found in space are a result of this. The truth is when the mind is settled and uninterrupted you could be doing a communication dance and links with other people and you become momentarily surprised. The mind is truly amazing, do not underestimate it’s value.
‘I was shocked at how everything came together’
You often hear stories of how an entire day or week events came together and you just cannot give any possible logical explanations to it. I will provide a fitting example of a friend of mine who shared a story regarding this. He told me that there were a number of excruciating events on that day where he needed to juggle some things around and then catch a flight. Without going into the details of the story, he was able to fit everything into that day and astonishingly he was able to make it to the flight when he was absolutely certain that he would be nowhere near it. As the day unfolded, he was aghast at how the events unfolded and there were glimmers of hope of everything coming together. What my friend did, was gave way to ‘nature’ since he probably thought the whole day’s feat was an impossible task and he just let it go. As he saw the day unfolding and things getting done he became increasingly positive and confident and he was able to achieve the impossible task of catching the flight. He looks back on the day and he simply cannot understand how the turn of events came about for all of it to happen!
What can we learn from his experience? A lot in fact.. what our minds are telling us is that if you have a purpose and desire and have at least a glimmer of hope of succeeding, you will be truly amazed and at how the mind and body can materialize those impossible tasks.
Stay tuned for more enlightening posts!
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Tuesday, August 23rd, 2016
When it comes to relationships we generally tend to make our opinions of somethings based on what people said. However, we all know from experience that second-hand information can be distorted and usually convoluted by the person who is conveying it.
When I was young maybe 10 years of age, our English teacher played a fun game with us kids. She had all the kids about 20 of them lined up and would whisper into the ears of one of the kids at the end. That kid needed to whisper the same thing that the teacher had said to the kid next to him/her. Once the message got to the last kid in the line he had to say loudly what he heard. We would all burst out laughing when the teacher would actually tell us the short sentence that she whispered to the first kid. It was amazing to see how the original message go so distorted. Occasionally the first kid would even pick up the message incorrectly from the teacher, it was not that she was trying to make it sound inaudible or anything.
The example above just goes to show that messages get distorted when passed from one person to another. The motto of this example is that you can never know the complete truth until you have first hand experience of it. Have you noticed how people convey information about a movie they have just watched and when you get to see it, you feel that the person had left the most important information out of it? The same is true of when people come to you and talk about anything, it is always colored with their personality and event factual statements may be distorted. This is where witnesses in courts always seem to be in loggerheads in discussing about the events they witnessed.
Take another real example. A person entrusts family members around her to give information related to some assets held in another country. So the person becomes completely and entirely dependant on the individual for the information related to their assets. It would be very easy for the individual if they so wished, to somehow ‘manipulate’ the information that is passed onto the family member. In reality the person who is receiving this information may never get the truth to the information that is being handed down to them because it is being ‘controlled’ by the person who is delivering it. These kind of miscommunication or mistrust often results in dissolution of businesses, breakup in relationships, mistrust in people and much cause for conflicts between people.
One of the endearing quality that some of us have, is that we tend to make the assumption that everyone else tends to think or behave in the same way we do. Many folks go through disillusionments and eventually wake up to the realization that people are just different to them. Trust is such an important quality for all of us to work together in pursuit of greater goals in life. There are people amongst us who take trust to their advantage like the example given previously but one can also lay some blame to the person who completely entrusted the person for that information. In life one has to be aware of good and bad and this can be easily blinded by faith and trust in others that bring about so much frustrations, headaches and often heartbreaks in our lives.
Is there are simple solution that people can follow that will enable them to detect the good from the bad or the bad from the good? Unfortunately, every issue/event that comes across in our lives are different and the way we handle it can develop trust or resentment in others. One cannot be on ‘guard’ all their lives otherwise the whole living thing becomes a ‘chore’ rather than something to look forward to. Next time you become critical of someone that you have crossed paths with, ask yourself how this could have been avoided. This could be a good starting point in maintaining your sanity with people around you and learning how to deal with them and making yourself even better prepared to take on the world.
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Thursday, August 18th, 2016
The Rio Olympics of 2016 are filled with excitement as we see great feats of skill, strength, endurance and determination. We almost find ourselves in the same shoes as the olympian who crosses the 100m line to break the world record or the frustration of the high jumper who hits the bar on the third time.
I find it particularly fascinating to watch the short interviews that take place after an event, it reveals their thinking and often the purpose of why they go through such enduring hardship to reach the top. If we take mankind as a whole, we have excelled at being the masters of our world and we have a deep craving for progress and what lies ahead. This is so true for anyone who competes for a medal in the world cup.
Maybe to a lesser extent, we all have a deep sense of purpose and achievement that we strive for and the perception of how we internalize these feelings can propel us forward or keep as stagnant. We can associate all the athletes that participate in the Olympics have gone through gruelling exercise and constant practise along with much sacrifices to reach the pinnacle of their sport. Why do they do that? To many of us we cannot imagine being subject to the same constant routine day after day to just to get the satisfaction of having 1 billion people or so watching you hold your medal.
If we take that same philosophy of thinking to heart and apply it to our daily lives we should theoretically also achieve greatness in our endeavors. But many will forgo that desire to be ‘great’ because the ‘struggle’ and ‘sacrifice’ is far too much to bear in the pursuit of that goal. Nevertheless the sense of high achievement and greatness has never come without a price. But I would say to those naysayers that when you are living the dream and greatness the slog and effort that one tends to think is not the way one thinks. In fact, if those people did not ‘enjoy’ or feel ‘fulfilled’, they would not be able to maintain the path they put themselves through.
The ‘euphoria’ of living your dreams propels one to a new level of thinking where the tasks does not seem like tasks at all but inches them towards glory.
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