One recipe for great dating is to just be yourself. This may be one phrase may be the most heard among online dates, but is one of the best pieces of advice ever. You may find a lot of books where they tell you do be yourself and then put in myriad ways to act like someone else. That is far from a recipe for great dating. You may come across a tip that tells you to be yourself and in the next breath talk about developing an extrovert’s nature. For a shy guy, the choice is to follow the rules and be just what he is, shy, or struggle and pretend to be an outgoing person and bungle it all up. If you are shy, then that’s what you should mention in your profile and portray yourself just as you are. The ladies will appreciate your honesty.

Besides, you won’t want to risk pretending to be an extrovert when you are in all aspects just the opposite.
No amount of practice could turn someone shy into an outgoing person. Some say when you are outgoing you have more chances of hooking up with someone. But the truth is there is no better recipe for great dating than to be assertive. You can be shy but that doesn’t mean you can’t be assertive. No pretense. That’s a recipe for disaster and not for great dating. So, if someone does tell you to be overtly outgoing then you would be barking up the wrong tree.