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Don’t Blame Online Dating Sites for Teen Sexual Abuse - Part 2
Friday, March 15th, 2013
Don’t Blame Online Dating Sites for Teen Sexual Abuse - part 1
Why do people turn abusers? Is it because they were abused as kids and they could not speak out? Were there parents not supportive enough and did not try to understand the kid and the child felt neglected? It has been found that most of the child abusers are known to the child and family as well. Social stigma or the fear of disturbing the hornet’s nest (family) prevents the parents from giving justice to the child. This leaves emotional scars on the child which makes them grow up with vengeance.
Another fact for sexual abuse could be the conservative ways of life that are forced on the individual in the name of tradition. A person with a rebellious nature will not try to understand these traditions but will try to break them for their own ego-satisfaction. The level of frustration across the nations has increased due to high cost of living, lesser jobs; media exposure has shown the glamorous side of life and living which has affected the mindset of the people in developing nations.
The best way to release frustration is through sex is what has been scientifically proven. The people are literally applying this to their life-style and going on a sexual satisfaction spree at any cost. The government of India had passed a law that a citizen is considered to be an adult at 18 years of age. With the crime scene changing in India, the govt. is planning to reduce the age of an adult from 18 years to 16 years! If you can think of sexual abuse at sixteen then you are responsible enough to face the consequences of the crimes you commit and cannot get away by being a juvenile. Sex at 16, voting at 18, drinking permit at 25!
Parents must give more attention to their child at the growing age. Be supportive and understanding so that the child feels free to discuss everything with the parents rather than falling under the peer pressure and committing a crime which he/she regret later. Trust your child more than you trust your family members as usually the child abusers are known to the child and the family. Give time to your child and not just load the child with money, gadgets and exotic holidays that will keep your status high in society and put your child in to the dumps.
Tags: sex life, teen dating, teen sexual abuse
Don’t Blame Online Dating Sites for Teen Sexual Abuse
Thursday, March 14th, 2013
Teen abuse is rampant across the globe. It is not confined to poor or developing nations or specific strata of society but across all nations and communities. Child abuse is any form of physical, emotional ill-treatment, neglecting the child or exploiting the child which might harm the health of the child and sexual abuse which will affect the development and psyche of the child.
Children are abused by their own family and it’s the neighbors who speak up. Every state in America (except Hawaii, Columbia and Virgin Island) enforces child abuse reporting law. Keeping the child safe is the responsibility of each person no matter where in the world you are. The person who does not report abuse is as guilty as the abuser himself. It not then only men are abusers, women too are party to child abuse in many subtle form. Neglecting the child and if you are a single mother then letting your boyfriend abuse your child automatically makes the woman party to abusing.
Children suffering from neglect or abuse are a hidden abuse which can occur in any religion, education level, culture and any economic level as well. This has become so common not only in USA but in other nations too. Child abuse statistics show that about 300 million children subjected to violence and 1.2 million are trafficked world-wide. These children who are trafficked are usually from poor communities and exploited.
Developed nations have a different form of child abuse where the child is not forced to do tedious labor jobs but sexually abused. It was found that almost 31% women residing in USA jails were abused in childhood. Abused or neglected children tend to become abusers themselves and 80% of abused children suffer some form of psychological disorder.
India a country that is one of the fastest developing nations in the world is walking on a tight rope due to the rampant sexual abuse that has thrown the country off-balance. A young girl was raped by five men when she was traveling in a bus with her fiancé which they thought was the regular transport bus run by the government. The girl was gang-raped, the guy physically abused and both were thrown out of the bus by the rapists onto the cold streets of Delhi. One rapist was a minor (a 16 year old) was the one who physically tortured the girl after raping her.
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Don’t Blame Online Dating Sites for Teen Sexual Abuse - Part 2
Tags: sex at 16, sexual abuse, teen dating abuse
Alternative of Dating Sites Image Search?
Wednesday, March 13th, 2013
Searching through of millions of images to know more about the person you plan to date is a recent way of dating. A person (let us assume his name is John) browsed through some random sites where singles are listed and found a picture of the female who aroused his interest. He did an image search and found her on FB, LinkedIn and many other networking sites. He read all the information about her, got her address, phone number, where she works, what she likes, the places she most frequently visits and what are her interests. All this information he gathered about her by spending time to visit various sites where she is registered to know more and more about her. He finally called her and introduced himself. Told her all about herself from the information she had given on various social networking sites and asked her for a date. More than surprise it was beyond comprehension that this guy found out so many details about her life and called her to date her.
Alternative of Dating Sites Image Search?
Google has launched image search for people to find their relatives and friends across the world. This has made the world shrink further as one can easily find the person from one image. Image search has totally cut down the time barrier as most people are registered on some social networking site and pictures are tagged somewhere or the other. Though one has not met the person in ages, one usually has the image of the person in some stage of life. Let’s say school friends pictures can be matched with to find your friend today and reconnect with him/her.
Online dating sites do have an option to load images and videos as well. Most of the dating sites are popular because of the ease of navigation they offer. The simple registration process which is usually free, the number of singles registered on the sites with complete details available at the click of a mouse button. The search filters are effectively designed and monitored so that one can easily find the kind of person one is looking for. With the search criterion defined, the results are almost accurate almost every time.
With a simple registration process which is free, once registered the member can easily browse through the listing and view the pictures. One can find the person available to date within a specific distance from their own area. Free online chat options lets you know the person better which helps in deciding whether you want to meet in person or not. One can browse the free online dating sites from the comforts or office to find a companion for the evening or weekend. No need to go to single bars looking for him/her at the end of a tiring week to find a date. Most of the online dating sites are constructed to view on hand held devices as well which makes the access easier and any time available.
The convenience and security that the dating sites offer cannot be replaced by image search. Back to John, the female found something very eerie about the whole conversation she had with John. She probably assumed him to be a psycho or a guy who had all the time on Earth to find out so many details about her from multiple sites. No person in their right sense would be keen to date a person who wastes so much time to find details from various sites when a simple option of browsing the online dating site is available to know all the information about the person as well as chat with the person for free.
The concept John applied maybe good but the approach was probably not right as the information he had about her made her feel sick and vulnerable. Bad incidents do happen in online dating too which is quite rare. Image search dating may not be acceptable to the human psyche as it makes one vulnerable. It may take a while for this change to take effect as it is more dynamic way of finding a person. Online dating sites are the safest way still to find the person for the evening or a life time as peace of mind, safety and security are the top priority for any sane person.
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Stress Buster Activities with Dating Partner - part 2
Wednesday, March 13th, 2013
Stress Buster Activities with Dating Partner - part 1
Work stress has become one of the main reasons today for a stressed life. The pressure at work, the necessity to perform and keep proving yourself is taking its toll on most individuals. One tends to become negative and this leads to further stress-related depression. Spending time with a dating partner relaxes the mind and he/she can understand your state of mind becomes more sympathetic towards you. This energy draws you to being more positive towards life by seeing the glass half full rather than grumbling about it being half empty. A positive outlook changes your perceptive towards life. A caring dating partner will turn your pessimism into optimism by being supportive and understanding.
The stressed person definitely relaxes a bit with the date which helps them to analyze and prioritize their work. Once the work is stream-lined, time gets managed well there by reducing stress. A supportive word from the partner with some tips on managing time or organizing the day becomes a great help for the mind to be at peace.
Enjoying a drink with the date is different than drowning in alcohol to avoid the realization of stress or stressful situation. An understanding dating partner will provide all the support to solve the problem and stop the partner from falling into the avoidance trap. Most men tend to hide behind the effect of alcohol that makes problems disappear momentarily. A dating partner extends that support and helps one to identify and tackle the cause of stress.
If the situation cannot be changed, the partner tells you to accept it and focus on what you can control rather than what you cannot control and get stressed. Tough times don’t last but tough people do especially if they have found truly supportive, understanding and caring dating partner who is more of a counselor and guide.
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Stress Buster Activities with Dating Partner
Tuesday, March 12th, 2013
Stress has become more of our habit today which is unfortunately turning into a way of life. We are becoming a selfish lot being skeptical about everything and everybody. This may be due to personal, health or work related reasons. Instead of choosing to get out of the stress, people are becoming habituated to being stressed and staying stressed. With lesser interaction in the real world with real people the stress levels have gone much higher and people are turning to drugs and drinks to find solace. Each person needs a companion to share the joys and sorrows of life. A dating partner is the best person who can understand you as you have found him/her through online dating sites, spent time knowing each other better by chatting online and meeting or met through a common friend.
Stress Buster Activities with Dating Partner
Once you get to know your dating partner better, the comfort level between the two goes up and it is easier to discuss almost everything with him/her. The wavelength matches and as the affection, the care and understanding for each other increase, the relationship evolves into a beautiful emotional relationship.
Personal reasons to get stressed are most commonly being lonely. After a day or week of busy work schedule, each one of us wants to relax and unwind. Doing this alone leads one to become an alcoholic as alcohol turns out to be an ‘anytime companion’. Keep away from this. With so many singles listed on dating sites, find a date for yourself from the comforts of home or office. You can even find him/her when you visit singles bars. Meet each other, chat, discuss and know each other better. Once you have found a friend in him/her, nobody can be a better stress buster dating partner.
Physical activity effectively deals with stress. An understanding partner is the best companion to begin and continue a workout which will definitely keep the stress away. The mind is relaxed after a strenuous workout. This helps each person to think a bit more clearly thus identifying the root cause of stress. The dating partner being supportive adds to the feeling of well-being which helps the stress person to get control of his/her thoughts and emotions. If health issues are causing stress, a simple activity like walking together can reduce stress tremendously. Once you build up your energy and stamina, move on to more rigorous activities with your partner. This is a sure shot way to keep stress away and improve your overall relationship.
Stress Buster Activities with Dating Partner - part 2
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