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A further reaffirmation that self-improvement is very important

Saturday, August 27th, 2016

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Improving one-self is as important to rearing children

Improving one-self is as important to rearing children

Often, our members are looking for ways to self-improvement and self-development because they are aware of how important these are to attract the right partner in their lives. In that vein we have written hundreds of articles on this subject in our jumpdates blog. We have reaffirmed the importance of this quality from sources around the web.

Recently we have reviewed the popular book by Benjamin Spock on ‘Dr Spocks baby and Child Care’ - 9th edition. Although it talks about the birth of child and parents expectations etc. However, we could not help and marvel at some of the statements made early in the book which talks about how parent’s treat strictness and permissiveness in order to bring up a child. This section alone warrants a read by every adult as it has profound implications in the way we grow up as adults.

If you get a chance please read the section on page 48 ‘74. Parents who become confused with new theories’ which basically talks about how some parenting choose to bring up their children based on how they were brought up as a child. This is a must reading as it will provide you with insights to your thinking and help with self-improvement.

As mentioned before in our numerous blog posts, there are many reasons why we choose to behave the way we do and this largely stems from our upbringing. Dr Spock talks about how some of us can ‘change our theories’ from the ones we have been taught by our parents. How we do this has huge repercussions on the way we behave and how we expect to parent our own children. Just to give you an example, if we choose to give more permissiveness to the child based on our harsh and strict upbringing, we may be doing injustice to the child. The feelings of resentment my grow with time as you give in to the child on every whim which is not what you intended. What Spock indirectly says, is to bring a balance to the handling and upbringing of the child.

Dr Spock does not discourage strictness in bringing up a child but when it is done with overbearing harshness, chronically disapproving and make no allowance for the child’s age and individuality then it can be harmful. However, this line alone indirectly shows the personality of the adult and if we lean towards that kind of upbringing we really need to reach within ourselves and change.

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Change your life, change your reference point! - Part 6

Monday, August 8th, 2016

Final notes on the subject ‘Change your reference point - change your world’. We are making a complete course material on this subject and soon to be released as a downloadable ebook. Watch this space!

Change your life - Change your reference point

Change your life - Change your reference point

We discussed how to handle the complex situations of using the method of ‘reference pointing’. The techniques are simple and anyone can use them, you just need to apply it on a routine basis. The benefits are significant compared to using other techniques which usually give the same repetitive message again and again.

Still, there are many folks who just don’t have the time to go to these lengths and for them, the path is also simple, you basically know your own reference points and change the world around you. You may do this very selfishly as many of the most successful people on earth. Take Trump as an example and he clearly typifies the arrogant and self-serving interest and followed this path.

Contrary to what most people think, the fact that ‘normal’ people would like to associate the departure characterized by these people who can be considered ‘abnormal’, should be an easy fix. This could not be far from the truth, it is the very wide departure in their thinking that constitutes the many negative ‘complexities’ of the mind that causes them to behave in such a way. Hence the fix is equally more hard and a uphill battle. You just have to see examples in your own life where the constant irrational behaviours that are so obvious are actually the hardest to fix.

A key factor in attempting to understand the differences in human behavior is not to ‘reference’ their behaviour with yours. You could say that this inevitable when you are living with someone or have to live your daily lives with such people. It’s an important concept to understand. The true psychologist comes across as very cold and for very good reasons. The do not ‘exert’ their opinions or views on the behavior they are trying to characterize otherwise it would be completely detrimental to the patient’s treatment. Their simple treatment is for the patient to dig deep and understand their own deficiencies or lack of understanding. It is only through this that they can better themselves. Now you can understand why the ‘reference point’ is so essential to self-improvement.

Along with ‘reference points’ comes another important concept called ‘detachment’.
So here is something important to consider. By exerting your thoughts and beliefs on others can only lead to disaster and the person most affected by this is the one who is trying to exert the thoughts and beliefs onto others. Think about it, you become frustrated by other people’s reactions and behavior and your brain attempts to bring some sensible conclusions towards this. For example, you end up cursing the others for being so and you wonder how they came to be like this. You derive negative thoughts that can try to explain the situation away by implanting personality disorders and there alike. When you find yourself in that situation, you will exercise what you have learnt by departing yourself from the events and folks. Say to yourself that they have reference points on their scales and that simply does not tally with yours. So what do you do first, you calm yourself down and remind yourself of the reference points that both of you are at.

Over time, you will see that others can look very favorably upon you and in fact listen to you with this kind of reaction. However, don’t get roped into discussions with them if you feel that their reference points are too much departed from yours. You need to make the decision whether you want to help those folks sincerely and genuinely which will take time and energy on your part. Or if you simply want to move forwards. Remember, that you should feel happy that you have triggered this kind of reactions in such individuals where others have failed over rational arguments. Remember, in one ear and out the other year which they have heard from many others. If they see a change and indifference behavioural pattern in you, then they are likely to change. It is surprising that I learned this technique long time ago, but it is hardly discussed by positive thinkers and almost always mentioned by the way. This is where you can see that reference point brings a whole bag of reasonings as to why you felt the way and did what you did. Now with this ammunition under your belt, you can now truly shape your life from your own perspective and not someone else’s.

We hope you enjoyed this six part series on practical methods and techniques where you can take your life back and make all those important changes. The techniques are not derived from ‘positive thoughts only’ but from a real perspective to understand where you are in life, in essence your own reference point.

Please add your comments below and let us know if the ebook would be of interest to you, so we can mail out a notification and link as soon as it is ready!

Warmest regards,
Jumpdates think-tank

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Change your life, change your reference point! - Part 5

Friday, August 5th, 2016
Simple and effective way to enhance your life - change your reference point

Part five of the six part series on using ‘reference pointing’ to help you handle complex situations. The only technique that has known to work consistently for members of Jumpdates. Read on…

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How to be liked through examples – 12 key pointers

Monday, December 20th, 2010

Being liked is a sought after quality in people and something we all admire. There are certain traits one can follow to be liked and becoming a well liked person is similar to learning any other skills.

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How to be liked through examples – 12 key pointers - part 2

Monday, December 20th, 2010

<<< How to be liked through examples – 12 key pointers - part 1

1. Having a positive outlook in life

2. Be passionate right now!

3. Be funny, humorous & always smile and laugh

4. Be polite & considerate

5. Be empathetic toward others

6. Listen well and respect others

7. Understand people’s boundaries

8. Don’t be judgmental

9. Complement others

10. Be humble

11. Maintaining good health, grooming and use good language

12. Be honest

It is not always easy to put these into practice so I have outlined this personality traits with real world examples that can easily come about in your daily lives.

In this way, you will be able to relate these points into your life and conduct and improve yourself as a result.

How to be liked through examples – 12 key pointers - part 3 >>>


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