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Meeting meatheads in the Koots’ cootie-infested online dating world - Online Dating Briefs by Dr. Dato
Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011
Article Subject: Meeting meatheads in the Koots’ cootie-infested online dating world
Article Link: http://castlegarsource.com/news/general/meeting-meetheads-koots-cootie-infested-online-dating-world-9908
Article Rating: 3.0 (out of 5)
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Dr. Dato’s Brief:
This a post by Allyson Kenning who wrote a post about her Valentines day’s experience with an online dating site and her own personal views of the subject. I personally do not agree with some of her statements made which seems to be more in frustration with herself and is typical of most people who blame the system rather than looking more closely at themselves. Normally, I am not very critical of people’s views but on this occasion I needed to be so, readers can find some usefulness in the material.
Her first gripe was that she had received two messages from men who clearly couldn’t spell and one who wanted to know what she was doing ‘tonight’. Naturally this kind of communication will not come across well to a lady of good standing or most people for that matter.
She also recollects some of her bad experiences with men who weren’t quite up to the profile and were late in meeting her and on top of that lied about their age.
At the end of her post she decides to put up a disclaimer of all the men she does NOT want in her life and eventually abandons the whole online dating scene together to spend more time with her cat and wait for Prince Charming.
My Brief:
She clearly needs to take a good look at her negative personality because that would be the very thing that is standing in the way of good and bad men.
She makes a big fuss about the spelling errors in men’s communication. Personally in a message some abbreviations are allowed but then again she needs to look at her own post. The title of her post are all in CAPs which to most people seems like you are shouting.
She claims that she will wait for Prince Charming, but I am sorry to say, you have been looking for Prince Charming all this time. Why? because you do not make the effort to seek out the other men, you are reactive to the situation. If you did a search on the dating site for men, I am pretty sure you will find men who are not only stellar in their English but probably intellectual enough to give you a run for your money. But then again, why would they want someone who is negative in their outlook of life?
My conclusion, please perk yourself up and look at the real world which is your own self and then decide how you can improve and not the world changing for you. I find this piece of information helps me in my daily life a great deal.
improving ones personality is the first objective in improving outlook
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Tags: Allyson Kenning, dating advice, Online Dating Tips, personality development
Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 5 - Forums and blog etiquette
Monday, February 21st, 2011
Article Subject: Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 5 - Forums and blog etiquette
Dr. Dato’s Brief:
Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5
Most of the online dating sites will usually have a forum and a blog where you can write your own posts and comments respectively. Other dating sites may also have an array of interactive features where you can create quizzes, polls, conduct surveys, play games and more.
The trick for maintaining good etiquette on these parts of the dating site is to understand that your post or comment is being read by many other members of the site. The communication aspect of these features are very different to using say the messaging section where the communication is one to one.
Usually the forum will have a main post where a ‘thread’ of discussion emanates from the topic related to the post. To make an effective contribution to the forum board, requires you to read what has already been written and then write something useful so that the flow of conversation keeps going. Don’t offend other people or ridicule them, be courteous to any responses made on your thread and comments.
One thing to keep in mind about forums and blogs that are tied to the dating site, is that your profile reflects the contributions you have made to the forum or blog. So it is in your interest to make sure that your remarks are good and proper as it reflects in the overall quality of your profile in the eyes of other members.
Read on of our previous posts Understanding Dating Forums in an hour.
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good online etiquette applies equally to forums and blogs
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Tags: dating advice, dating forums blogs, dating tips, online dating etiquette
Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 3 - Opening a message with a member
Sunday, February 20th, 2011
Article Subject: Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 3 - Opening message with other members
Dr. Dato’s Brief:
Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5
Messaging is an important aspect of online dating and getting this right is all important in getting the attention of female or male members that have caught you eye.
Some of the insights we have gleaned from the Jumpdates database of members activity is that the quality of the message is key to get a higher rate of response. For example, introducing yourself with an opening remark such as ‘hi’ as opposed to say ‘how are you’ has a profound effect on the replies. However, keep in mind that the usage of words is all in the matter of context, for example if you are already engaged in a conversation, ‘hi’ is perfectly acceptable. What we are talking about here is the opening line to a new conversation with a member.
Like all other email applications that we use today, we generally open the email after viewing the ‘from’ and the ’subject’ line, so it is imperative that the subject line has something of interest. A simple ‘hi’ may do the job for some people but to be more effective, try some catchy lines such as ‘Wasn’t the weather dreadful today?’, ‘You will be astounded when you read this..’, ‘Hmm, you are into salsa dancing’, I think you get my drift.
Speaking from the men’s point of view, if you target a woman who happens to be very good looking then you can assume that she will be inundated with many messages. The trick is to sound unique which will create a sufficient interest or buzz for her to open and read your message.
From the women’s perspective, it is generally a good idea to view all the incoming mail, because you may find that a ‘hidden gem’ lurks underneath those unassuming messages.
Try not to be too dismissive and base your opinion on just the mail alone, because a profile description will never be able to replace the face-to-face meeting which can be very different from each other. Like all communication with other people, try to be courteous as possible, I am sure you would expect to be treated in the same manner.
be unique and courteous in your opening line in online dating
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Tags: dating advice, dating and messaging, dating etiquette, dating tips
Love & Money: Online Dating Financial Scams - Online Dating Briefs by Dr. Dato
Saturday, February 19th, 2011
Article Subject: Love & Money: Online Dating Financial Scams
Article Link: http://www.blackenterprise.com/2011/02/15/love-and-money-online-dating-financial-scams/
Article Rating: 3.0 (out of 5)
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Dr. Dato’s Brief:
This is a good post on potential online dating financial scams that are still in play today. Although, most of us are aware of the many scams still at work today, we have become accustomed to some of them including the Nigerian scam where an email is sent to individuals making an appeal of clemency on behalf of a distressed widow of an army officer with millions of dollars stashed away in a foreign bank.
We have to continue to be alert to some of the creative ways that scammers are coming up with to swindle people out of money and it is no different to the online dating world where scammers prey on some of those people and prey on their vulnerabilities. The post gives good tips on how to be more alert to these type of scams and make you more savvy in detecting others.
Don’t rely on a photo
Photos are the easiest way to convince and attract the opposite sex. Pictures of women dressed too provocatively can be tell tale signs of scammers, if you are not sure, read carefully the communication that ensues.
Don’t give or accept money
These are the surest signs of scam, whenever a user asks for money or tries to give you money. Couple this with the photo and messages sent and you can probably string them together to discover their act.
Some dating sites such as Jumpdates.com has an excellent scam screening process and the site makes it very easy for users to report a scammer and warning other members on the site.
online dating scams can be very creative but usually involves money
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Online Dating - Just How Honest Are You? - Online Dating Briefs by Dr. Dato
Saturday, February 19th, 2011
Article Subject: Online Dating - Just How Honest Are You?
Article Link: http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/Online+dating-280.html
Article Rating: 3.0 (out of 5)
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Dr. Dato’s Brief:
This post is from a UK site and talks about online dating as it applies to the UK men and women.
In UK alone, one in six people now meet through an online dating site whereas in USA this figure is about one in five. Some tips from leading dating companies suggest that creating a catchy headline for your profile is important but make it unique and not the same way ie. “Bubbly personality”.
A Bath University lecturer said that your email address, spelling, speed of replying all adds to how they measure you from the other side. Doing a spell check is vital for some readers.
Some readers who have written in to say that the online profile cannot say much until you have seen him/her in person, “I have have been excited through texting and emails but when we met there were no sparks”
One single mum says she would tick all the boxes in her profile just to increase her chances. “An initial phone chat allows you to find out much about the person and if they are willing to introduce you to friends and families, its the best way to see what his world looks like and how you would fit in”.
being honest with your dating profile can help but leave something to the imagination
Tags: dating advice, dating profile tips, UK Dating, users comments